A few months ago I caught up with a group of old high school friends. Many, many years have passed since we giggled in the hallways of our all-girls Catholic school, sharing secrets and bobby pins. Back then we were a sea of blue uniforms, all alike – same messy ponytails bobbing above neatly buttoned blouses. Now we have gone on our separate paths.
Photo: "Friends Forever" by Ahsan Saeed
Although we have such different lives, what makes my friends so special is that we don’t need to justify (to each other or to ourselves) these differences.
Among us there is a mum of three, a newly graduated doctor, and an engineer now working in hospitality. Some are married, some single. Some have mortgages while others wrestle with rental payments. The conversation slides easily and openly from university study to the trials of childbirth. And we celebrate each other.
These are the kind of friendships I seek out. People who are comfortable in their own skin, and accepting of other people regardless of their “social status.” People who know that your ambitions – whether that be a medical degree or motherhood; travel or settlement; a life with a partner or without – these choices are not valued one above the other, but all wonderful choices – wonderful because they are the lives of the people you love.
Photo: "The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination." by Sundaram Ramaswamy
Do you ever find yourself making comparisons between your life and other peoples'? Perhaps between friends, or perhaps with celebrities in magazines, or work associates. We all make different choices, but what is most important is not the contents of your resume but the happiness and contentment you have and share.