With such a focus on money for many people, it is easy to get caught up in the dollar-value of everything. However, there is something much more valuable which many of us overlook. It is finite and unlike money, can never be earned back; our time.
Washington D.C. sunset
In my opinion, in order to live a fulfilling and balanced life, it is essential to be a bit picky about how (and with whom) we spend our time.
Catching up with friends is one of the great pleasures of life, but it is important to ensure that these occasions are beneficial for everyone involved. Itís easy to fall into the trap of hanging around with people who bring negative energy into your life, sometimes without even noticing that itís happening.
Personally, I have had to take a step back from some of my friendships in an effort to value my time more. Many of my catch ups with friends had turned into one-man shows in which I was the audience for my friend to show me Ďhow great theyíre doing.í It was almost as if my presence wasnít actually needed, the conversation could have been carried on without me.
I often left these occasions with a feeling of exhaustion and it became clear that these catch ups were in no way beneficial or a positive influence in my life.
I decided I was going to start to value my time more. Our time on this earth is a precious thing and I was going to start treating it as such.
Venice Beach drum circle
Of course this has meant I have turned down a coffee date or two but I know itís for a good reason and an essential step towards living the positive and fulfilling life we all strive for. I feel much better having taken control of how I spend my time and this has meant I now have more time and energy to focus on positive and more fulfilling friendships, helping them to grow and strengthen.
Iím not saying to immediately scrutinise all of your relationships and get rid of the ones which you arenít elated with but rather, just become aware of these relationships and ensure that your free time is spent in a way that is beneficial and fulfilling, not just for you but for everyone involved.
The sooner we start to view our time as the valuable commodity that it is, the easier it is to make decisions on how to spend it.