Take a look at that scar on your leg, your palm, your knee. Do you remember where you got them? You probably remember every last one of them. You could probably go into great depth about each one.
You remember the one that you got riding your bike and your chain broke, sending you spilling all over the pavement. How about the 10 stitches from the broken glass when you were washing dishes, or the time you ran into the door in the dark?
Some scars can be hidden!
They are part of you and you wear them every day. They are there for life, unless of course you surgically alter them. Then you can hide them, cover them up, and pretend they never happened.
Now, how about the scars on your heart and soul?
You know the ones that I am talking about, the scar from your ex cheating on you. What about the part that still hurts from where your friend trashed you to everyone they knew because you made a stupid, human, mistake? The one you wish you could take back? The loss of your grandmother to cancer still burns because you never went to visit her in the hospital.
Like a dust storm, emotional scars can clog you until you can't breathe!
All these and more make up our life stories. We are all human, we make mistakes, we hurt and we carry it around.
The one thing we don't do enough of is heal them and let them go.
So now then, how many times has one of these hurts come back to you? Someone at a family reunion reminds you that you never saw your grandmother in the hospital. They make you want to cringe and hide, or get angry and call them names. Then you put it away again - until the next time.
The universe has a way of bringing everything back to you, whether you want it or not.
There is only one way that these things will go away.
Acknowledge them and set yourself free!
You have to acknowledge them, own them, forgive yourself or whoever has wronged you and then let it go.
Over the course of my life I have ignored so many things, burying them, putting them into the back of my mind, trying to forget about them. They don't stay hidden. This only works for a short while. You need to bring them into the light .
When you own them, take a good look at them, it makes them smaller, less significant, eventually becoming a non-issue.
Cleanse yourself of old wounds!
Make sure you look a them realistically.
The thing you said to your friend, probably should never have been said. You can't take it back but you can learn from it. Apologize in your head to your friend. Apologize to yourself. You were probably coming from a place of hurt. Forgive yourself and let it go.
Your grandmother would forgive you for not going to see her. You were afraid, didn't want to see her go, couldn't bear the hospital visits. She loves you regardless. Acknowledge the pain it caused you and let it go.
It took many years to realize that shedding light on these things could be a good thing. It only gets better when you can rid yourself of them.