Monitoring your own emotions is not an easy task. It requires you to take a step back from yourself, and from your feelings, in order to identify them. It is common and easy for us to allow our emotions to dictate our whole experience, but there is an important difference between “I feel” and “I am.”
Emotions are temporary. This does not mean that they are false – but that they will pass. Anger, sadness, even happiness – all things are temporary. Next time you are experiencing an unpleasant emotion, try not to get caught up in it. Take a few minutes to yourself. Sit peacefully with your mind. Be aware of your emotions – allow them to exist, but know that they aren’t in charge of you.
I find that I am better at dealing with sadness than with anger, for example. Anger consumes me but I can get by with sadness. Now when I am angry I say to myself, as if saying calmly to another person, "I feel angry about this. That's ok."
Being aware of and accepting of your feelings frees you to live a more whole and present life.
The benefits of being emotionally aware include improved mental health, increased job performance and better self-management skills. Once we are aware of emotions, we can begin to control them instead of allowing them to control us.
Improving your Emotional Quotient is the key to unlocking a more peaceful, self-aware, and self-directed life.