When I was young, about 20ish, John Lennon's song, "So This is Christmas" always used to make me cry, especially the line that went, "And so this is Christmas, and what have we done?" (just as a side bar - I know this song was about more but this is how I took it)
Another year gone by!
It would hit me every time. 365 days had gone by, again, and I felt that I had done nothing to give back, I hadn't helped anyone, I sucked at the life I was living. And was I living that life? Was I a contributing member of society? How could I be when I couldn't even talk to the people in my life? And if I did, would they listen?
It really didn't feel like this would be the case. In fact, I lived in fear that I would be singled out, that people would ask something of me that I could not possibly give. I could not stand up for myself, I felt like I was sinking, that I had no identity and I was really lonely even though I was in a relationship at the time.
I was self-conscious, felt vulnerable, and did not want to stand out in a crowd. I had a wall around me but didn't feel protected by it. I did not like this time of year that was supposed to be so full of love, joy and family. I felt I had none of this.
Walls are easier to put up than to break down!
At this time of year it becomes immensely difficult for some. Who are they? What have they done? What have they accomplished? Why are they even here? And they too feel lonely, misunderstood, especially if they cannot express what they feel.
Our feelings can run pretty deep!
Do you know someone who displays these qualities?
You can tell who they are - look around the room. Watch postures, facial expressions, eyes. Even if they never speak out, they may truly want to. Don't mistake their silence or demeanour for snobbishness or arrogance. These people need our compassion, encouragement, our ears and our love.
It can be an extremely lonely time of year, even when surrounded by other people. If someone can't share what is going on inside of them they can feel depressed, angry or vulnerable to everything that occurs. And with this being the holiday season it just seems to compound those feelings.
Which way is up?
I was this person, but as the years have passed I have let down the wall, built up my strength, my courage, my life, my awareness and my desire.
I have come into my own and others can too. I am so pleased to be the person that I am now. I have healed so much and so immensely that I now feel the desire to help others heal. I want to come from a place of love. I am asking you to do the same.
If there is someone out there that you know, who at this time of year has a really difficult time, send them love, show them they are lovable. Hold their hand, listen, show them they are a valuable member of the world and that they are needed.
Christmas can be merry!
It is small, kind gestures that will help others believe that they too can be loving and kind to themselves. This may be just what they need so they can realize their truth and potential for a happy life.
Just maybe they will look back on all this, be grateful and want to heal themselves and help others as well.
I smile now when I hear the song for I know try every year to make things better, I have healed and am helping others to heal, through love and compassion. This can be the way for all of us.