There are a lot of life lessons to be learned from sport. In the recent World Cup, the USA scraped in to the finals, on goal difference, even though they lost their match. The actor, Daniel Dae Kim tweeted: 'Whether you walk in from the front door or the back, what really matters is that you're still invited to the party.' That notion struck a chord with me, and is applicable to so many things in life. It doesn't matter how we get where we are going, arriving is all that matters, or at least enjoying the journey there. We need to stop holding our accomplishments up for judgement. If we tried and succeeded, the process is irrelevant.
There are many times in our life when we will feel like kids at the grown up table, at work or with friends. We feel like frauds or out of our depth. In short, we feel like we aren't good enough.
I'm here to tell you, if you are there, you are there for a reason. It doesn't matter how you got there. All that matters, is that you are there.
Steven Bradbury is the perfect example for this attitude. He won his Gold medal in speed skating when the other competitors stumbled. He didn't falter or make a mistake. He continued to do what he needed to do and he won the gold. He was focused on his own race and it paid off.
We don't need to doubt ourselves. There will always be plenty of others around us to do that. We just need to do what we need to do, and keep doing it. We don't need to concern ourselves with the success or the expectations of others. If we are happy doing what we are doing, then that should be enough. That is the gold we are after.
"A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.” -Sensei Ogui
Rather than stifle ourselves with doubt, it is time to focus and bloom and that is the beauty to aspire to and a quick path to happiness.