In a eulogy, my friend shared one of her Mother's favourite pieces of advice "Nothing goes without saying".
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Simple as it is, it is profoundly true, and a mistake that we all make. We assume the other person knows what we think and how we feel about them. Why would they? We need to tell them, and show them, and make sure we let them know.
Don't wait for an occasion to tell your partner you love them. Tell them tonight when you walk in the door. Thank them for what they give you, and name it specifically if you can (and I don't mean material things). Do this all the time, at least weekly, unprompted.
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If you are mad at the kids, or they're being punished, remind them that you still love them, even at this split second in time when they've made you cross.
If someone is in pain or sick, let them know they can count on you. Send them a text or give them a call, just to remind them of the offer. If you've offered to do something a few times, don't assume they know it's an open invitation to take up when they choose. Keep reminding them of it.
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And so the list goes on. We think people know what they mean to us, but why would they? It's up to us to make sure that they do.
In your life, nothing goes without saying.
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