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Alone but Not Lonely

by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo) (follow)
I'm a freelance writer living in the beautiful river town of Mannum in SA, dreaming of the day I can retire from the 9-5 to write full time.
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There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. I live by myself in a lovely little cottage in the country. My husband passed away more than twenty years ago and I was so busy raising my three children and making sure they were coping with it, that I didn't have time to think about loneliness. I never remarried or even sought a new relationship.

I love living alone, yet oddly, some people find that hard to believe. I regularly hear comments like, Dont you get lonely? or Dont you get scared? My answer to both is an emphatic No.

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I have a very social job where I get to interact with people all day, and there is something delicious about coming home to my cosy, quiet little home. Im greeted enthusiastically by my dog (and my chickens) and the first thing I do is kick off my shoes and relax.

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I get to be completely independent in decisions about my life. I please myself in what to eat, when to eat, how to spend my time and even which TV programs to watch. I can play my music or enjoy complete silence. If I feel like going out I do, and if I feel like staying up late and sleeping in the next day, I do that, too.

I live in a small community where I feel safe and secure, knowing that if I need help there is someone I can call on. My children are no more than an hour away if I want to see them.

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Living solo is not for everyone, but it can be a personally satisfying thing to do even for a short while. Instead of being one of a couple, we become a whole person in our own right. We can use the time to build our resilience, our character and our skills. If we then choose to pursue a relationship, we go into it with a healthy attitude, knowing that we are there because we want to be, not because we need to be.

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A lovely article, I always relish the times when the others in the house go out, leaving me in control of my life!
So true Colmo. I can totally relate to coming back home from work and kicking off shoes to sip some coffee. Unfortunately , I am unemployed these days, so it is more of a stress than relaxation for me at this point.
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